Hug a complete stranger or shake their hand for six seconds. You will develop a bond and earn their trust almost instantly. I first heard about this concept during Jane McGonigal’s Ted Talk in 2012. Jane was talking about a game that can heal a person’s mind and emotions. See the video using the link below.
Touch is a form of communication that is far more powerful than words or body language. Touching someone creates bonds, strengthens relationships and communicates several emotions. People can feel love, trust, honesty, compassion and empathy just by a simple touch.
On the same token, if you get hit in the face by someone else’s hand, that’s a different form of communication. The act of coming into physical contact can be a great way to establish and build relationships. How we communicate with others can be a determining factor in how successful we become in life.
Thought Based Communication
Understanding how we affect others by the different methods in which we communicate with them is slowly becoming a passion of mine. I believe it all starts with our own minds. The beliefs we hold about ourselves and the identity we connect ourselves with will determine how we communicate with others. Our attitudes matter. Our feelings about social engagement matter. The way we think determines the way we communicate.
Communicating Through Thought
Many scientists (and mothers) believe they can have an entire conversation through their thoughts. While I have no evidence to back this up, other than the fact that my wife and my mother both seem to know when I’m up to something, I will say I have had many moments where I knew what someone was thinking without them saying a word. When we think in a way that corresponds with strong emotions, we put that emotion out to the world through our words and more importantly our actions. Everything begins with thought.
So where do thoughts come from? I believe the answer lies on the conditioning of our unconscious mind. We have been training ourselves subconsciously to have a certain type of reaction to whatever thoughts we have. Even though we are not our thoughts, we physically connect through our thoughts with our emotions.
Our emotions determine how we are thinking. So we must create a powerful set of emotions based on thoughts that will empower is to create a more perfect world. If we can train our emotions to react positively to empowering thoughts, restructure our belief systems and communicate well with ourselves, we can communicate well with others.
Testing The Communication Aspect
I often walk around engaging strangers as I work in a night club. It’s easy because they have already validated me as a person of importance based on my on stage presence. However when I have not been very social, my body language has told them “I don’t want to be engaging.” This is the very reason I push myself out of my comfort zone frequently and engage when I don’t want to.
I make it a point to shake someone’s hand or give them a hug when I meet them for the first time. If I do it again, I do it for a second or two longer than the previous encounter. I also communicate the emotion of love through my thoughts while engaging them. This simple act of sustaining physical contact, all while thinking I love you or you can trust me translates that emotion to the person I’m interacting with. I have found this to be true on several occasions, and that is why I continue to build powerful relationships.
The Secret to Success | Mastermind Groups
I truly believe the secret to success is in the relationships that you build. Quality relationships bring about more opportunities for you to be successful. When you build a solid relationship, you are all of a sudden not alone in your journey. Whether it be in business or personal relationships, the relationships that you build can lead to your ultimate success.
Mastermind groups are a great way to build relationships that lead to business success. When a group of like-minded individuals get together they are sharing ideas, knowledge and resources that might not come about on their own thinking. Getting the input of someone that’s on a different journey than you can be useful. You learn about all the pitfalls, the mistakes, and the successes that other people have already experienced. You can accelerate your learning and your path to success by studying what others have already tried and failed to do. Or by what they have succeeded at as well, for that matter.
Create Value for Others
The quality of the relationship you build in a mastermind group will determine how much value you receive from others. The value you receive from others will be determined by the value you give to them upfront. For example, you may have heard the expression you only get what you give. This is also known as karma.
It starts by you creating value for others. Creating value in the lives of other people is how you build strong relationships. The more value you provide for an individual, the more value they will provide back. While this may not be true in all relationships, I believe it is the starting point for building the foundation to strong relationships. Both in personal and in professional relationships.
As you begin working on building the foundations to your relationships, remember that the value you create for others is a way to touch them without physically interacting with them. This article is about the physical act of touch but it is also about the spiritual act of touching. You can touch the lives of others without actually coming into physical contact with them. You can have empathy for someone and touch them in emotional ways.
You can show your support for people by touching their lives. You can offer a positive word or helpful advice. Touching doesn’t necessarily have to be a physical encounter. The energy of the touch starts with the thought of creating value for others.
I encourage you to step out of your comfort zone and truly be authentic and engaging with others. Please comment below and share your thoughts. I’m very interested in you.